Skip to content
kids sitting with santa

When To Talk To Your Child About Santa

Wondering when is the right time to tell your child about Santa?

You're not on your own - it's a question that a lot of parents struggle with.

There isn't one answer that fits everyone, but we can help you make the decision that's best for your family. kids sitting with santa

We want to help you create magical memories with your child - and that includes telling them about Santa Claus.

We'll give you tips on how to do it in a way that makes them feel excited and happy, and not like they've been lied to.

At What Age Should You Tell Your Child About Santa?

Not everyone will remember when they stopped believing in Santa, but for some people, it can be a tough moment.

You might worry that your child will feel the same way - like they've been lied to and that all the magic has gone out of Christmas.

The good news is, there's no need to worry. If you have any concerns, just chat with one of our elves and they'll be more than happy to help.

When it comes to telling your child about Santa, there isn't a right or wrong answer.

It's different for every family and it all depends on what you think is best for your child.

Here are a few things to bear in mind when you're making your decision:

  • How old is your child? If they're very young, they're likely to believe in Santa for longer.
  • What do other families around you do? If all their friends still believe, your child might feel left out if you tell them the truth.
  • What's your family's attitude towards Christmas? If it's a very important time for you, your child might feel like they're missing out on something special if they don't believe in Santa.

Remember, there's no rush. You can take your time and see how your child feels as they get older.

They might start asking questions about Santa that give you a clue about what they're thinking. Or, they might come to you and tell you that they don't believe anymore.

Either way is fine - it's all about what's best for your child.

How Should You Tell Your Child About Santa?

If you've decided that it's time to tell your child about Santa, there are a few things you can do to make sure the conversation goes smoothly:

Let your child take the lead

If they come to you and ask questions about Santa, answer them honestly.

But if they don't bring it up, there's no need to force the issue.

Don't make a big deal out of it. It might be a big deal to you, but for your child, it might not be such a big deal. They're likely to take it in their stride, so try not to overreact.

Be honest with them

It's important to be honest with your child - they are going to find out the whole truth eventually, so once the spell has been broken, it's better to tell them the full story.

Don't worry, they'll still enjoy all the Christmas traditions even if they know the truth about Santa.

Remember, their feeling are valid

Your child is likely going to be upset and/or disappointed when they find out the truth about Santa.

They might feel like they've been lied to, or that they're too old to believe in him. It's important to remember that their feelings are valid - even if you don't agree with them.

Try to see things from their perspective and reassure them that it's okay to feel however they're feeling.

Encourage them to talk about their feelings and help them understand that everyone goes through this at some point. It doesn't mean that Christmas is any less special - it just means that they're growing up!

Allow them time to process

Bombshell news requires time to process for the best of us and the same will go for your child - they might want to talk about it some more, or they might not say anything at all.

Either way is fine. Just give them the space they need to come to terms with it in their own time.

Focus on other Christmas traditions

There's more to Christmas than just Santa Claus! There are plenty of other traditions that your family can enjoy together. Try to focus on those and create new traditions of your own.

Remember, just because your child doesn't believe in Santa anymore, doesn't mean they won't enjoy Christmas. There's still so much to look forward to!

How To Handle This Conversation As A Parent

This conversation can be difficult for parents too. Here are a few things to keep in mind:

Your child is growing up - and that's a good thing

It can be hard to see our children grow up and realize that they're not little kids anymore. But it's important to remember that this is all part of the natural process of growing up. They're just trying to make sense of the world around them and figure out what they believe in.

Try to stay positive and focus on all the other wonderful things about your child - they're still the same person, even if they don't believe in Santa anymore.

You might feel like you've failed as a parent

It's normal to feel like you've failed as a parent when your child stops believing in Santa. But it's important to remember that this doesn't mean you've done anything wrong. It's just a sign that your child is growing up and maturing.

Try to take comfort in the fact that you've done a great job raising your child and that they're just moving on to the next stage of their life.

It's okay to be sad

This is a big deal for you too! It's normal to feel nostalgic and sentimental when your child stops believing in Santa.

Acknowledge your own emotions and take the time to process them. You might want to talk to your partner or a friend about how you're feeling.


What is the average age to stop believing in Santa?

There is no definitive answer to this, as every child is different. Some children stop believing in Santa around age 7 or 8, while others may believe well into their teens. It all depends on the child and how they process information.

How do I know if my child is ready to stop believing in Santa?

If your child starts asking questions about Santa that they haven't asked before, or they seem skeptical about his existence, it might be a sign that they're ready to stop believing. Trust your gut and have a conversation with them if you think they might be ready.

Where do the letters to Santa actually go?

The letters to Santa go to the North Pole, where they are read by elves. The elves then reply to the letter, typically with a nice note and some candy.

How do I keep the magic of Christmas alive for my child?

There are many ways to keep the magic of Christmas alive for your child, even if they don't believe in Santa anymore. Try focusing on other traditions, such as decorating the tree or baking cookies together. You can also watch Christmas movies together or read holiday stories. Just make sure to spend quality time together as a family and create new traditions that everyone can enjoy.

How do I introduce my toddler to Santa?

If you have a toddler, you might be wondering how to introduce them to Santa. The best way to do this is to take them to see Santa in person, either at the mall or at a holiday event. This can help make the idea of Santa more real for them. You can also read stories about Santa or watch Christmas movies together. Just make sure to keep it fun and positive!

Wrapping Up:

When to talk about Santa is a question that many parents face around the holidays. While there’s no one perfect answer, we’ve put together a few tips to help you figure out when – and how – to start the conversation. 

How you bring up Santa will also depend on your own beliefs. If you plan on telling your child that Santa is real, be prepared for some questions – and maybe even disappointment – when they find out the truth someday.

Conversely, if you choose to tell them that Santa isn’t real but presents are still coming from someone else, be sure to explain who that person is (and why they might be giving gifts anonymously). 

No matter what approach you take, keep the lines of communication open by answering any questions honestly and without judgement. Your child will likely have lots of questions (and probably some doubts) about this mysterious man in red, so it’s important to provide accurate information and reassurance throughout the process.

The bottom line? There's no single right answer for when – or how – to talk about Santa with your kids. Every family has its own traditions and beliefs, so it's important to tailor the conversation accordingly.

Be honest, open, and patient with your children as they explore this new part of their holiday tradition.

And, most importantly, enjoy spending time with them during the most wonderful time of the year!

Previous article 10 Easy Tips for Gardening Even When You're Busy

Compare products

{"one"=>"Select 2 or 3 items to compare", "other"=>"{{ count }} of 3 items selected"}

Select first item to compare

Select second item to compare

Select third item to compare